I have a theory that modern day breakups are 10 times as hard as in the olden days when computers and Facebook didn’t exist. Why you ask? Simply stated, it’s because Facebook and social media does not permit the forgive and forget process to go as easily. It is hard to move on when you have to delete those cute pictures that you and your ex-bae took together. Once you do get the courage to delete the pictures, your ex-bae’s profile creeps on you when you see one of his or her posts. Furthermore, some ex-baes do not obey the no-contact rule and still continue to stalk you on LinkedIn (which of course sends notifications of who looked at your profile) and even muster the courage or stupidity to like one of your not so recent Facebook posts. If you’ve been fortunate enough not to experience such selfish acts of friendliness/voyeurism/stalker-ism, then trust me when I say it is unnecessary torture.
My ideal break-up is described well by a Gwen Stefani song that I am obsessed and recently learned to play on the guitar. The song known as “Cool” which has an awesome video that I’ll link below is about being “cool” with your ex no matter what you went through and being happy for them even if that means finding different significant others to be with. My favorite lines come from both the opening and closing verse which I’ll list below.
It’s hard to remember how it felt before,
Now I found the love of my life…
Passes things get more comfortable,
Everything is going right.
And I’ll be happy for you if you can be happy for me.
Circles and triangles, and now we’re hangin’ out with your new girlfriend,
So far from where we’ve been,
I know we’re cool. I know we’re cool.
So far, I haven’t experienced this cool-ness with any of my exes but speaking for my own behalf, I am at peace with them. I wouldn’t mind meeting any of my exes’ new girlfriends because I can be happy for them and hope that they would be happy for me too if I found love. But anyway, you guys should seriously watch the video to Gwen Stefani’s song.
Side note: Her platinum blonde hair tempts me to try blonde one day but clearly we do have very different skin tones. Let me know what you think of the video and if you think I could pull of the blonde look.