Best marriage advice ever

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Mother’s Day May 2020

Alright, let me first acknowledge that I am not married but I can tell you this advice is tried and true. When I was on an internship, a pharmacist that I worked with was celebrating an anniversary. I can’t remember how many years she’d been married but it was a long time (definitely more than 15 years). So I asked her what advice she could give me for the future. To my surprise, her answer was really simple. She said, “marry someone nice”. She didn’t say someone with a nice job or a nice car. She said to marry a nice, kind-hearted person. Because at the end of the day, that person will be considerate and not act harshly towards you.

I was like 21 at this point and to be honest, I did not really apply this advice to that period of my dating life because I was just having fun. However, this advice has always been in the back of my mind. Fortunately, I consider the person that I am dating now to be one of the kindest people I have ever met. However, I have overlooked this quality in the past for looks and other less important things. But I think deep down, I have always known what I wanted. I always use to say that I wanted to marry someone like my younger brother because he literally has no enemies. He makes friends as easily as counting to 10 and forgives as easily as a three-year-old.

I’ll admit that sometimes people can be nice to a fault. There are some people who are so busy trying to make everyone happy that they forget about their family. So in being nice, make sure that prioritization is also key. But if the drawback is being nice to a fault, I would rather take that than someone who is rude to a definite fault. At the end of the day, it will be the simple things that matter. Simple actions like buying your favorite snack or drink at the gas station. And always being honest with each other. I think love is just that simple too and in that case, then marriage reflects love.  I hope we all find the “ying” to our “yang”.  The Michelle to our Barack. And with that, I am hopping back to Netflix to finish this “Becoming” documentary.


2 thoughts on “Best marriage advice ever

  1. Finally! You posted! I have checking for a while now, and wanted to ask why you haven’t posted for over a month!

    Cool piece … but …

    It’s important to be “watchful” that a person isn’t ONLY nice to you but also nice to other people too! How a person treats you matters! … and how they treats other people matters too!!

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    1. Aww your comments are always appreciated! Thank you for your feedback! You’re absolutely right! The definition of nice person should also include being nice to people other than the person you’re dating 🤗

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