Physical Attraction: why does it matter?

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February 2018

Physical attraction. It’s a primal instinct that is embedded in our DNA. Some women like myself prefer tall men cause they make us feel protected while some men prefer women who have more cushion because they are seemingly more ripe for childbirth. Despite our evolution from hunter gatherers to smart phone users, physical attraction still remains as a primal need in relationships and our social interactions. The question is: does physical attraction really matter?

In my humble opinion and from my observations, the answer is yes. If you’re not physically attracted to someone, you are 95% less likely to take them seriously as a potential partner (hence the friend zone). This phenomenon makes us shallow as humans but what we forgot is that us humans are also animals. In the animal kingdom, there’s a lot that goes into attracting a suitor (mating calls, feather arrangement, scent etc). Similarly, a person’s voice, scent, and dress also factor into our attraction to them. I don’t think this is anything to be ashamed of. if anything, we should embrace our senses in terms of how they can help us end up with the right mate.

The flip side of the coin is that as much as we have to be aware of the physical, logic should always trump primal instinct. For example, if a woman looks like Beyoncé but has the intelligence of a 5th grade drop-out, then your logic should inform you that such a match will not survive the test of time. Similarly, women who pick men based on how much money he has are setting themselves up for a lonely marriage because those dollar bills won’t keep you warm at night.

Simply stated, your head (eyes included) and your heart should be in agreement at the partner that you select. As I’ve probably stated  before, I believe that love is a choice so please make the right choice for your whole self.

FYI: I have now organized the journal part of this blog into four sections: dating & relationships, lifestyle, music, lessons learned, and school. I hope this makes your readership easier 🙂 ❤


2 thoughts on “Physical Attraction: why does it matter?

  1. Very interesting post. I do have certain physical aspects I’m attracted to, but I’ve also been able to overlook flaws (and I hate to even call them that!) because the person was so amazing 🙂

    I do wonder what causes attractions today, now that we are so far away from baby-bearing/protection caveman thinking. Very thought-provoking! Can’t wait to see the rest of your blog ^.^

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    1. Thank you for reading! It seems like despite not being cavemen anymore we still hold to some of those primal instincts. It would be interesting to see what causes attractions today like you said especially since metrosexual men probably didn’t exist back then haha. 😉
      I look forward to getting to see your blog too! 💃

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